The Abandonment Wound, Anxious Attachment, and the Eroticization of Rejection

The Abandonment Wound, Anxious Attachment, and the Eroticization of Rejection

The Abandonment Wound

If you have to abandon yourself in order for the relationship to work, that not’s love – that is the eroticization of rejection.
Our relationship patterns stem from our earliest childhood experiences. It’s where we learned our relationship patterns, unhealthy strategies to receive and keep love, developed the wounds that we consistently try to heal through another’s love and our lack of boundaries that keep us feeling scared and unsafe in our relationships.
These strategies look like this:
+ Being selfless in order to get your needs met.
+ Taking care of mom or dad because if they are whole and healthy, we’ll finally receive the unconditional love we need.
+ Being the “good girl” so as not to upset the family system to prove to ourselves that we are loveable.
+ Staying small and quiet because any request we make will lead to abandonment.
If this resonates with you, take a deep healing breath and feel where this pattern, this emotion lives inside your body.
Now fast forward to the present moment. Look at your current relationship or your past relationships.
If you are honest with yourself, you’ll see that you’ve taken this strategy as your younger, innocent self and are still applying it now to your adult relationships.
Chances are you’re having a very similar experience – not getting your needs met, but trying like hell to do so.
My invitation to you is to interrupt the pattern once and for all.
On the other side of the abandonment wound is empowerment, freedom, and finally feeling safe in the world.

Anxious Attachment + Abandonment

Anxiety can be crippling. It can make normal, everyday life tasks difficult and scary. And when we have an anxious attachment style, our relationships don’t feel secure or safe which then triggers our deep abandonment wound, and the cycle of ineffective behaviors to get our needs met begins.

This pattern of relating begins to erode the relationship that we so badly cling to for validation. Which in turn, triggers our anxious attachment style and the suffering continues.

When we are anxious, we feel terrified, alone, and powerless. At it’s worse, we can experience panic attacks that make it difficult to drive, work, or go to school.

Healing with Hypnotherapy

Hypnotherapy works directly with the subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is 90% of your mind and is where all your feelings, emotions, long-term memory, habits, patterns, behaviors, and beliefs are all stored.

So we have direct and immediate access to go to the root of your issue and heal from your core for lasting results.


If you are ready to heal your relationships with hypnotherapy, I’ve created a 5-session video healing journey designed to bring deep and lasting healing to your abandonment wound and anxious attachment style.


The best part is that it is on-demand and at your own pace. 5 sessions, 5 videos, 5 opportunities to heal.
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